There are a variety of ways some people sabotage their lives and success. They may engage in unhealthy behaviors like smoking, heavy drinking or drug abuse. Others establish relationships with abusive partners or those who continually create drama.
The sabotage of one's education and career are also common. This manifests as quitting when it gets difficult, getting into arguments with the teacher or boss, lateness or absenteeism, procrastination, or an inability to finish tasks or projects.
Even though this tendency expresses itself in myriad ways, at the core is usually a problem with self-esteem. If your self-image is one of a "loser," or "failure," or someone who is "powerless" to improve your circumstances, your subconscious will encourage you to have experiences that confirm this self-image. And, every time things don't work out, your inner child is there to remind you that you can't expect any better!
Other people can be happy and successful--which makes you jealous--but you are not deserving or capable of creating happiness in your life.
Individuals with this issue never seem to live up to their potential, and usually have trouble accepting compliments. When someone says something nice about them, they immediately think it's not sincere, and/or the person just wants something. Even in their own words and thoughts, self-sabotaging men and women put themselves down and diminish their accomplishments.
Friends and family members sometimes try to encourage these people--aware of their true potential. However, those words of support fall on deaf ears. The voice of their inner child is louder and more powerful!
Only through professional hypnotherapy can the messages from the inner child be changed to reflect what is possible. Many people I've helped have made dramatic changes in their lives. These changes became visible to all around them. Once their subconscious mind is programmed to line up with the adult possibilities rather than the childhood messages, major life changes happen effortlessly.